Friday, November 7, 2008


Picking Up Older Women On-Line

Cougars, all guys LOVE them! I’ve used the tips below for finding hot older women on AdultFriendFinder with amazing results. These tips are from my personal experience, and I’m able to hook up with cougar at least once a week. I’ve got a pretty decent sized list of women for casual dating and friends with benefits since I’ve joined AdultFriendFinder five months ago. If casual sex with older women is your thing, then let’s get started and help you get laid.

Introduction

Online dating has grown in popularity over the last few years. Finding a match online is much quicker than trying to pick up somebody at a bar or a pub. It's important to take a look at statistics of people who use online dating, to better get a feel for what you should expect. When it comes to men who use online dating sites they rank physical appearance at the top of their list. Women, on the other hand, claim they are more attracted to a man with an excellent personality above the man's appearance. Most online dating sites seem to have equal amount of men and women.

However, women tend to get more messages per day than men. Women are looking for men with a great sense of humor. Men, on the other hand, are looking for women younger than themselves. Except for middle-aged women; they usually are interested in finding younger men. Most older women who use AdultFriendFinder are generally looking for no- strings relationships. Now that you know a little more about the statistics involved with members at the online dating sites, it's time to talk about how you can set yourself apart and land the ideal person for your ideal relationship.


Profile Name

Your profile name is one of the first things you're going to have to consider when you sign up at an online dating site. When it comes to a profile name you should choose something that is concise, descriptive, and attention grabbing. It can be something about your personality, your occupation, or even something that interests you. You can try to make it humorous but don’t take it too far. For example, “BigAppleFireFighter” is a good screen name. A lot of women are drawn to guys who are firefighters.



You are telling them what you do and that you are from New York. MatureLover is another good user name. You are signaling to the older women that you love mature women. Do a little bit of research on the site and see what other people are doing before deciding on a username. Just make sure you stay away from names such as “Stud69”, “BigBuffGuy”, etc. You'll see for yourself once you have a look at the other profiles. Your username, tagline, and profile picture are the first thing the older women will see. You want to do everything you can to leave a good first

impression.


Taglines

Taglines are a one or two line introduction about your profile. A tagline can be used to grab the attention of someone browsing through the profiles. When it comes to using a tagline, it's important to think of them as a “teaser.” The expression “Leave them wanting more.” could be used to best describe what to put in the tagline. If you put too much information in the tagline, chances are good that it will just be blocked out and ignored. A good example of a tagline for someone who is looking to hook up with an older woman can be “It’s true when they say, age is just a number”. That tagline suggests that age difference is not an issue for you and the older women on AdultFriendFinder will eat you up.

Pictures

If you want to be successful on an online dating site, you have to post some pictures of yourself. The pictures should be recent and you should include at least four pictures if not more. Pictures are worth a thousand words, and older women will be more inclined to look at your profile has them.


  • Make sure you and only you are in the photos you upload. Don't put a picture of you among a group of your friends and make the person browsing your profile have to guess which one is you.
  • Good lighting is essential. Make sure you are in good lighting and that your face can be clearly seen.
  • Make sure to smile and look friendly and happy. No one wants to see someone who looks miserable or sad in their profile picture.
  • Make sure it's a recent photo.
  • Older women are in their sexual prime. If you’ve got muscles, show them off in only one picture. Get the hunting instincts out of the cougar. Just one picture of you showing off your muscles or a physical attribute will drive them nuts and they will have no choice but to message you. Leave them wanting more. ☺

Your Profile


The biggest challenge you will face, when it comes to an online dating site, will be to write about yourself. Writing about your self is not as easy as it sounds. I’ve had re-write my profile several times before I got it right. Don’t try to make it look like a resume. Be yourself, and go with the flow. Write it as you are thinking it. It doesn’t have to sound professional at all. As a matter of fact, feel free to add in a few “haha” and “lol”. Doing this will show that you have a sense of humor and a personality.

Don’t be shy to have a flirty profile either. Older women love that type of stuff. ☺

If you look at other profiles, you’ll notice that most are poorly written. Using my tips will keep you ahead of the pack and almost guarantee you to get laid by a hot cougar! With a well written profile, you should have no problem standing out from the competition.

Just remember that you want to keep your profile brief, yet interesting. You can be confident but not cocky. There is a difference between the two and cougars love confidence, not cockiness.

Your AdultFriendFinder profile should be around 250-350 words. Use about 70 percent to talk about yourself and the rest to describe what you are looking for. Make sure you write more than “I’m looking for an older woman”.

Although your ultimate goal is to get laid, in your profile you must say the nice stuff about cougars and older women. Talk about getting to know the person, making a connection, and looking to hang out to do other activities and not just sex. Whether that is the truth or not doesn’t really matter but it should still be written on your profile.


Hunting the Cougar

So now that you have set the cougar trap (your profile); women will start to take notice of it. You may notice that the activity on your profile is increasing in terms of views. Although you’ve set the trap with your profile, you are the man and you should go out and do the hunting. Based on my experience, out of my 9 friends with benefits, only 2 of them contacted me first. You can’t expect the women to come to you. As mentioned in the introduction, women get many messages per day and have their hands full. You have to initiate and approach them!

Pick an older woman who catches your eye. Before you message her, take the time to read her
profile. Also have a look at her friends list to check out the competition. Now that you know a little about her based on her profile and pictures, e-mail her!

In the subject line of the e-mail, say something creative and eye catching. “Hello”, “hi”, “how are you”, etc are the subject lines for 97% of women’s incoming e-mails on AdultFriendFinder. The subject line should have something to do with her profile. If she says that her favorite drink is green tea, your e-mail should say something about a type of green tea or even brand name. I used green tea as an example because one of the cougars that I’m seeing every weekend had
mentioned on her profile that she loves green tea. When I messaged her and initiated first contact, my subject line said “Green tea is okay, but black tea is where it’s at”. When she looks at her in box with all the e-mails saying hi or hello, this method is guaranteed to put you in the priority list when checking her messages and replying. Putting in tiny bits of extra effort like this drives women mad and will pay off.

Once you start to exchange e-mails, ask her more questions about her interests on her profile and what she does for work. Get her to be comfortable with you and make sure to get her instant messenger information so you can have more of a one-on-one chat. When chatting on IM, be funny but not lame. Be flirty, but not creepy. Just use common sense. Make sure to ask her what she’s looking for on AdultFriendFinder. Chances are that she is either looking for a one night stand or a friend with benefits. Don’t be shy to let her know what you are looking for. There is also a good chance that you guys are both on the same page.


Conclusion

Have fun with the site. The biggest piece of advice about writing your profile I can give, is just be yourself. Don't try to be something or someone you're not. You won't attract the right type of people by doing it. You'll only be cheating yourself.

Thank you for giving me an opportunity to help you create the perfect AdultFriendFinder profile. I’m certain these tips will help you find many local older women who are waiting to hear from you on AdultFriendFinder.


Good luck,
Frankie White

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